Blackberry Etiquette

Good Morning,

How is everyone doing this morning? Yesterday was a write off, today should be better- at least I’m willing it to be. I’m going to try to get back to writing on the regular, keyword : try. Just a little plug, this Saturday is the Torontofresh “Fresh Not Frozen party at Premium Rhythm Bar. I want you all to come out, I’m trying to take pictures and chill out with some good people. There will be giveaways and all that good stuff.

This next post I’ve been meaning to write and for some reason have just been putting it off. I’ve written different posts on technology and us being obsessed with it but now I feel enough is freaking enough. I’m apart of the Blackberry clique and I love my berry, I really do. However I find that most of us Berry owners are freaking obsessed with it and in some cases almost downright rude. There needs to be some kind of etiquette that folks should follow when it comes to using your Berry in public.

When you are around others whether it be a date, just chilling out, dinner, etc. please do not hold your phone in your hand and constantly check it every 2 seconds. It’s so rude, extremely rude. When that happens I find it utterly disrespectful, because it’s like you don’t value our time enough to put your phone on pause for a little bit. In no way am I saying, don’t check your phone at all but damn have a little respect. When I’m in the presence of others, especially in a one on one setting I do my best not to check my phone every God forsaken second. For what?! It irks me the most when I’m at a dinner and everyone around is on their berry doing things that owners do (bbm’ing, twittering, facebooking) there is a time and place for everything. We have to learn to seperate the two. If it’s really THAT serious the person will save that bbm message and maybe just call you. Crazy concept, eh? I will continue to say it, technology has ruined the art of communication. We as the younger generation, have no idea how to articulate and express our emotions properly. In front of our peers we are generally quiet and afraid to say what’s on our mind or say what’s real. We wait until we get to our phone/cpus to express our thoughts because it gives us that sense of wall or security. I say no way Jose. It’s getting to a point where I’m extremely irritated by it all. These blackberrys will be the death of us as we know it. It’s killing us slowly and I’m not having it.

Another thing, have you noticed that with certain people when you message them they take ‘forever’ to respond, but when you’re in their presence they answer every message they receive with the quickness? Interesting, I’d say. Clearly it’s just me that you ignore for the most part then right? I can catch the play. Blackberry culture can be so tricky.

Homewreckers Hide in Shame

Good morning y’all,


I rarely post Celebrity gossip from other sites but this I felt I directly related to this one. If you didn’t know Alicia Keys is a Homewrecker (let’s just call a Spade a Spade here) as she helped in the break up of Swizz Beatz and Mashonda. Read it first:

The following letter from Mashonda was issued in response to Keys’ tweet on Friday night: “Having a heated debate n the studio. Question is…N love is it better to go 4 the choice that is ‘SMART’ or the choice that has ‘SPARK’??”

After having a great evening with my son and enjoying some fun twit chat, I decided to sign off and get some work done. However, a few hours later I was advised that I should check @aliciakeys twit page. I’ve never reached out to her on twitter before. I feel our issues are a lot more serious than a website conversation. Not to mention that I’ve reached out to her many times in the beginning of this whole thing, as any wife would do. Unfortunately, I never succeeded in getting a response. The 1st time I meet AK, my husband introduced us to each other at an event. ( I have no choice but to call him my husband, until he is not anymore) In the messages that I sent to her (AK), I made it very clear that on the contrary of what she might be hearing, I am still married to my husband, living with him and just had a child. Its been two years and I still have not received a response. What I do receive, is constant displays of selfishness and disconcern to me and my son.

I was a fan of AK’s last album, we were both signed to J Records and I always checked up on her projects. I sang her songs and admired her for creating Superwoman and Karma, I would never deny her, her talent. I believed in her until I found out she was possibly sleeping with my husband. The affair was denied by both, until it was finally admitted months later.

Already I can hear some of you saying ” why are u blaming her, You cant make someone leave their wife, You cant break something thats broken”. Well, my marriage was not broken, as far as I knew we were celebrating our sons birth and getting ready to celebrate our 5 year wedding anniversary . Call it blind love, whatever. I call it being a devoted wife.. As far as me blaming her and not blaming him, thats false. Me and my husband have worked out our differences. We are in a good place as people and as parents. I accept his choices and I am comfortable enough with myself to move on. I am so very blessed in many ways.

My concern with AK is no longer the fact that she assisted in destroying a family but that she has the audacity to make these selfish comments about love and wanting to be with someone, even after knowing their situation. How is this the same Superwoman that I sang out loud with in my truck? I ask myself sometimes.

If you are reading this Alicia, let me start by saying, you know what you did. You know the role you played and you know how you contributed to the ending of my marriage. You know that I asked you to step back and let me handle my family issues. Issues that you helped to create.

Im not saying everything was perfect all the time but no relationship is perfect. We made a vow to God and I believe you should have respected that, as a woman. I know you owe me or my son nothing but I just wish you would’ve handled things more carefully. I’m not judging you, I put you and the whole situation in the hands of God, the Higher Power. Just know that as a woman, I expected so much more from you. I never had intentions on reaching out to you this way but after reading your twits tonight, and the constant disregard, you left me no choice. I feel that after 1 and a half years of you hiding this affair and acting like it doesnt exist, that now is the time to confront it, since you talk so openly about it now

This is not a publicity stunt, I dont have a record coming out. I just need to close this chapter in my life and that means confronting our issues. There is a small child involved. His dad loves him to death and he wants to spend more time with him but hes afraid because he knows we don’t have a relationship. This is my main concern. My son NEEDS his dad and I NEED to be comfortable with you. For him!

I know many will see my point and many will not be able to look into what’s real because they only want to see Alicia Keys the celebrity, not the human. This is not for the “people”, this is for you. Like I said I was left no choice but to reach out to you this way. By now, Im sure you want to find a balance in this as well.

I read your tweets tonight and I felt they were very insensitive. You have no idea how much pain I was caused because of this affair. Its baffling to me that you don’t understand what I might have gone through with this situation. I dont consider myself a victim anymore, Ive learned alot from this! I just ask you to try and be a bit more realistic and delicate to the situation, at least until my divorce is final. I felt me attending the party would have been a starting point for us, since you shook my hand after I offered it, but I suppose I was wrong.

If it’s so, that you and my husband are meant to be together, then God bless you both and I hope you never have to deal with what I did. I would not wish it on my worst enemy. If you two being together forever is the case, its more of a reason for us to get along, because I’m not going anywhere. Theres a child to be raised.

To answer your tweet, choose smart over spark. Sparks burn everyone, be smart! Its simple actually, just think of the shoe being on the other foot.

Stay blessed and lets work this thing out with respect and dignity.


-As per


Now, here are my thoughts on that letter…


Seriously though, well done Mashonda. I can directly relate to this as I’ve been in a very similar situation. How dare you aid in the breakup of a relationship and then have the audacity to flaunt that relationship for the public to see, before the other one is even over! Shameeee on you! You need to be called out, and take account for your actions. That’s low down triflin behaviour and I’m glad Mashonda did this. She wasn’t disrespectful, nor did she call Alicia out her name she just wrote from a place in her heart. There is nothing more hurtful and humiliating than having to deal with your partner cheating on you and walking around town flaunting his new relationship with the girl he messed around with. Talk about disrespectful. For any of you that are going to say noone can “take” your man from you, do not go there. Sometimes it doesn’t take much for someone to help in tearing apart an otherwise “normal” relationship. They are not divorced and you are walking town on cloud 9 like you didn’t do anything at all. Mind the way your relationship starts you know, because if it begins in deceit and lies it surely will end in that fashion. BELIEVE IT! Karma doesn’t sleep.

Thank you Mashonda for exposing what needed to be exposed. I rate it

Words for Women

Today I received this in an email at work.


This is Words for Women to Live by (not meant seriously, even though some should be)

1. Aspire to be Barbie – the b*tch has everything.

2. If the shoe fits – buy them in every color.

3. Take life with a pinch of salt… A wedge of lime, and a shot of tequila.

4. In need of a support group? – Cocktail hour with the girls!

5. Go on the 30 day diet. I’m on it and so far I’ve lost 15 days.

6. When life gets you down – just put on your big girl panties and deal with it.

7. Let your greatest fear be that there is no PMS and this is just your personality.

8. I know I’m in my own little world, but it’s ok. They know me here.

9. Lead me not into temptation, I can find it myself.

10. Don’t get your knickers in a knot; it solves nothing and makes you walk funny.

11. When life gives you lemons turn it into lemonade then mix it with vodka.

12. Remember wherever there is a good looking,sweet, single or married man there is some woman tired of his bullshit!

13. Keep your chin up, only the first 40 years of parenthood are hard.

14. If it has Tires or Testicles it’s gonna give you trouble.

15. By the time a woman realizes her mother was right, she has a daughter who thinks she’s wrong.

‘Remember yesterday, dream about tomorrow, but live today’.

Stuff happens…

Good morning ,


We’re  1 week away from the “Fresh Not Frozen” party on October 3rd and of course life happens sometimes. There is 1 change in the DJ Lineup, however this worked out extremely well.

The new lineup consists of DJ Rych Kydd (like before) and DJ Spoonz <–He’s LIVE.

I’m pretty excited about this, because those are 2 heavyhitters.


Quick Rundown: “Fresh Not Frozen

Address: Premium Rhythm Bar located at 173 Eglinton Avenue East

Hosted By:

Toronto Fresh & Special Guest(s)

Showing you the best things in life are FRESH


This is a 19+ event

 At this point, I think “what’s the dresscode” is a silly question unless otherwise stated. We are all grown people we should be dressing like that. Always try to look your best! You never know what my happen…


Come out and have a good time with me and my friends. If you have me on Facebook, you know we like to get down lol

Get Laid

In life, there are certain people that when you meet them, you just get a great vibe from them right off the bat. I’m pretty big on those moments, I work well off peoples vibes/auras. This woman when I met her, that’s precisely what I got from her- an excellent vibe. She approached me in the sincerest of ways and we had a small convo and that was that, each time I saw her around I would think “awww she’s mad cool”. The fact that she’s a photographer and a journalist and has crazy fashion sense just upped her brownie points even more.

Then I heard that she’s releasing a book and I believed that “cool” is not even the word to describe her. Who am I talking about?

Well her name is Shannon Boodram and on October 1st she will be releasing her first published book titled “Laid”. Amazing, right?

The premise of the book  (as cited from her website):

 Laid is the title of Shannon’s book that is going to be released through Seal Press in October 2009. Laid is a non-fiction anthology that takes a peer mediation approach to sexual education. Youth ages 18-25 across North America were asked to share a life changing sexual experience they went through in their teens. Contributors were asked to share their stories as though they were telling it to a best friend, lecturing was prohibited. As a result, Laid is not your typical sexual education book. It’s raw, honest, steamy, scary, inspiring and eye opening stories. The book is separated into five chapters based on five common young adult sexual scenarios: hookups, positive experiences, physical consequences, date rape and abstinence. No two stories are alike but in each chapter you will find the following components: a chapter intro, a question and answer section that addresses issues touched upon in each chapter and finally an activity that challenges the reader to derive their own lessons from other’s experiences. Laid’s has contributors who share positive stories as well as those who have dealt with teenage pregnancy, abortion, STI contraction, hookups, date rape, sexual abuse and living with HIV.

In addition to compiling and guiding each contributor the editor, a 24-year-old journalist, shares her own stories and provides insight in the chapter intros. The book’s goal is to arm readers with the information, hindsight and confidence to pursue an emotionally and physically healthy sex life. After reading each story, readers will form an enhanced understanding of the experiences they want, and want to avoid.

Shannon Boodram author of  "Laid"

Shannon Boodram author of "Laid"

Here is a video of Shannon describing her 1st book:

I recommend that you all go out and BUY this book, I believe it’s needed in today’s culture. Sex and Sexuality is a topic that I find that our generation needs guidance with. This book is not meant to “preach” to anyone but rather to give folks something to relate to, when they think they’re the ‘only’ one that’s going through or has went through a particular situation. There is no doubt that I will be picking up my own copy, support your local talent folks!

As I’ve mentioned to you before Shannon, I have a “girl crush” on you lol, I think you and Andrea are pretty fab!

 I should also mention to my wonderful readers that Shannon (along with her friend Andrea) have their own website/blog titled They are HILARIOUS! Definitely take a visit, you won’t regret it.

Also check out:

Poll #1: How often do you visit?

Good afternoon my peoples!


How’s everybody doing today? I’m sitting here with a dirty headache and now I’m suddenly hungry enough to eat a donkey. I don’t even know where that term came from but sure lol. As always I’m going to add different things and features to this blog.  I’m going to start doing polls, maybe every couple of days, possibly 1 every week. Me nah know, we’ll see how it plays out lol. The first one is pretty simple:

How often do you check me out at Simplicity, right?

Just Wondering (6)

…Just wondering why in the last 30 minutes I’ve seen the trailer for the MJ movie “This is it” 7 times. The movie doesn’t come out until October 28th *blank stare*. I’m not TJ Henderson or anything but according to my calculations I’m going to see 1,936 views too many before the movie actually comes out.

…Just wondering why the Black girl on reality tv always has to be the “Black girl” on tv. You know what I mean, everyone else is calm and serene and hey homegirl has to start some mess for no reason at all. For those that need a specific example, Bianca from this seasons Top Model. Arghhh, so unnecessary. All that attitude needs to seize in a hurry.

…Just wondering if you’ve gotten your outfit yet for the Fresh Not Frozen party on October 3rd at Premium Rhythm Bar? Make sure you come correct if not, my babies (my cameras) will catch you slippin. Torontofresh keeps it always fresh.

Just wondering why Macy Gray thought it was a good idea to embarrass herself on Dancing with the Stars. Silly question, look at the course of her career.

…Just wondering if you’ve been voting for Ron Dias as the new Muchmusic VJ 2.0. Stop sleeping and get on the scene. It literally takes 2 minutes to do it. It’ll only take 2 minute out of your Facebook/Twitter/Msn/ time. I don’t ask for much.

…Just wondering why people front sooooo much.  Say what you mean, do what you say. Stop fighting it, just get it done.

 …Just wondering how Wendy Williams got her talk show deal. She’s pretty annoying, and her show is boring as heck. I literally can’t get through the 1st 5 minutes. That voice, that face, that extra accent, that hair… it’s just too much to bare.

… Just wondering why BET can’t get their act together and pick up the new season of The Game. Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr. Bring back my Derwin, please. I didn’t do anything to deserve this. I miss you baby. I’m a little anxious to see what your offspring with that hooker Janay will look like.

…Just wondering when Tyra will stop screaming from the mountain tops that she’s wearing her “real” hair. Good for you! Do you want a sugar cookie now or later? We get it girl, you don’t have to go on every media outlet letting the world know. Keep in mind, you have access to the top hairdressers in the world- if they cannot make your hair look good no matter the circumstances, I see a huge problem.

Performance of the Day: Used to Love Me

Have Faith. Hope and Faith. Keep the Faith. Faith Evans.

This woman is so disgusting! In my opinion, she doesn’t get the props she deserves. Her voice is so powerful and she has such control over it. If you pick up her book “Keep the Faith” you’ll have even more insight into why she sings the songs that she does and lives the life that she does. I highly recommend the book, it’s extremely insightful and gives you behind the scenes into Badboy, Biggie, Pac and some of the things that really went down.

Faith is on my list of favorite artists for sure. Her album “First Lady” was underrated, there were so many gems on there.

Faith Evans- “I Remember”


Doctor Doctor

Good Evening,


Today, I didn’t go to work because I woke up with the left side of my face swollen and a certain portion of it hurting. I rarely call in sick for work, most things I thug it out and keep it moving however sometimes I have to throw in the towel (while being forced from others). The thing is when I get sick for whatever reason, everyone’s first phrase to me is “Make sure you go to the doctor” and my usual reply is “What for?”. Here’s the thing, I’m not too fond of doctors.Most experiences that I have with them are a waste of my time and effort. There are certain things that I’ve been struggling with for years and I’ve yet to meet a doctor that will take the time to actually help me out with it. My typical experience with a doctor never ends well- today was no different. It took so much out of me just to get out of bed and get to the doctor, halfway there I started to feel nauseous. My body was drained beyond means, I was walking around dragging my feet (Pet peeve of mine lol). Goodtimes, goodtimes. The minute I get to the doctor the expletives start going off in my head because I realize it’s going to be a long wait, and that it was. After falling asleep while waiting over 45 min, the doctor came in the room with her usual Sars mask on. Sidenote, maybe it’s just me but I think that’s extremely rude. She speaks through the mask, and yes she’s been doing it pre Swine Flu. After I try to tell her what my issues are, she rushes me through it and downplays it all. Maybe it’s just me here, but when your swollen it means your body is trying to tell you something. How could that just be nothing? She asked me if I wanted prescribed Advil, I said “is this special Advil? What kind is it?”. This trick replied “it’s normal Advil, the difference is instead of having to take 2 like the other one, this you just take one”. B*@C% , do you think I rode the remedial bus here?  If it’s “normal” Advil why would I take your prescription so I could spend more money than I would on regular ass Advil. I answered her “no” in the rudest fashion and she was practically out the door before saying bye. I left the office feeling extremely defeated. In all honesty, I believe I will be one of those people to pass away just “randomly” without warning because I’ve been wrongly diagnosed on many occasions. I’m so serious. My question to you folks is:

What are the qualifications to be a doctor nowadays?

Seriously, can someone answer me? It seems as though any Tom, Dick and Harry can become a doctor. Do they make them go through emphathy courses? I feel as though most doctors dont give a damn about any of their patients. They perform “Hit and Runs”, in and out like a thief in the night. That’s messed up to me. We go to doctors when we are concerned about our health, it sucks going to the person that’s supposed to help you and add some relief to your life and they treat you like crap. Not cool at all.

If anyone knows of any good doctors, please let me know. Maybe I’ll give it a try.

Run this town

I love Affion Crockett.

I know some of you are wondering “Who?!”. If you watch Nick Cannons show “Wild’n Out” like I do, you probably know who he is. That show is hilarious to me, I get pure jokes from it. Affion does the best impressions, most notably Jay-Z. He does alot of good ones though. In this video he does a spoof of “Run This Town” by Jay-Z, Rihanna and Kanye “I’ma let you finish” West. Take it in.