This post may seem all over the place but I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately. I’ve had a few separate conversations amongst my male and female friends regarding dating. One of the many topics discussed was, how do you know if a guy wants you to be his girlfriend or if he just wants to sleep with you? Well damn. In my mind, I thought long and hard on how to answer this but I really don’t know the clear signs any longer. Back in the day, a guy would romance you to show you how much he wanted you to be his girlfriend. He’d even come right out and tell you what he wanted from you “will you be my girlfriend” or “let’s deal” LOL. Nowadays a guy will take you to the movies (LOL I just had a flashback of that Youtube video.. sorry off topic) maybe take you to dinner, compliment you and all but what does he really want? To get at the kitty kat. Hmm… so how in the world do you know when he actually wants something more substantial? In my opinion a lot of males (not all but a lot) are very afraid to tell a female what their true intentions are. Do you just want to cut or do you want to build something here?
The males reading this right now are probably thinking…
“So why don’t you females just ask?”
Right? I know you were thinking that.
Well for the women that take the time to do that, sometimes it scares off the guy because he begins to feel “pressured”. It’s funny because the woman is not putting a knife to your penis saying “Be my man or he gets it” but rather just wanting to know where this is heading. No one likes being in limbo for a long period time. After awhile when the guy is essentially finished with you, you begin to feel like all that time spent has been wasted. Just flushed down the drain. Sucks, trust me it really does.
Ladies, let me know if you feel me on this one.
Fellas, please enlighten me on how this goes nowadays.
A confused Virgo.