Sigh x 16

I wasn’t going to touch this subject but something forced me to.

There are days that have significance due to years past and no matter how hard you try to blur it to the back of your mind, it sits right there engrained in your memory.

16 years ago my father died.

The day plays out like a movie in my head no matter how much I try to forget the feeling. Do not get me twisted for a second, I’m not saying I’m trying to forget my father by any means- NEVER that. It’s just the feeling does not go away, personally I don’t think it ever will. I’m not going to go into great detail or anything, I wasn’t even going to write anything about it today, then something so simple happened. As soon as I got home and turned on the tv, Janet Jackson’s “Together Again” was on. This song was always pretty special to me so I felt it was a little too coincidental.

That’s all really, short and concise. Don’t forget to cherish your loved ones, I’ll continue telling you all that until I meet my father ❤

This song felt like it was written for me…

Day 3: Pop Band

Next up were the Stepbrothers of the Pop Boy Band phase.

Nick, Drew, Jeff and ummm… (hold on as a google the last ones name…) Justin.

They were none other than 98 Degrees.


The reason why I called them the Stepbrothers of the game was because they were everyones least favorite (think Cinderella before she got her fly glass slipper). They were older than the more popular boy bands and their dancing was pretty cheesy but they still had the vocals, harmonies on point. The main singer Nick Lachey really held it down. All in all, I still listened to their music so they deserve a shoutout from me.

Sidenote: I miss Jessica Simpson and Nick Lachey together. They were a cute couple.

Look at this below video, that was one of my problems with them… you’re telling me noone could have bought them bigger shirts. It looks like they borrowed their little brothers clothes.

My personal fav from them:

Time is of the Essence

They say that time is precious, but how precious is it really?

24 hours in each day and how much of that do we spend wisely?

The consensus that I get is that most of you lovely readers are over the age of 20, which means you’re all thriving adults with many things to think about in an average day. School, Work, Paying bills, Hobbies, etc etc. Our days fill up so quickly and you constantly hear the phrase “I’m so busy” or “I have no time”.

How much of that is actually true though? I mean lets just keep it 100 (as we always do) we make time for those that we want to make time for. That’s just the sad and absolute truth. The quicker we realize that, the better off we will be in life. Granted, 2 people with busy schedules it may be harder to get them together in the same spot but it’s possible. Don’t try to tell me anything different. Playing phone tag may happen but if the 2 parties are really serious and want to see each other, by golly it’ll happen. The amount of times I hear people say they’re so busy and I really have to wonder how true that is sometimes. On Twitter, people that tweet how busy they are all the time must not realize how foolish it sounds. If you’re oh so busy, you wouldn’t have time to tweet “I’m sooooo busy” every 5 minutes. Let’s just keep it real b*tch!

SOTD: Pop Day #2

Day 2 of my tribute to Pop Boy Bands goes to one of my personal favorites…



Justin, JC, Joey, Lance and Chris.

This is where I first fell in love with the a-may-zingness that is Justin Timberlake *Yup, afro and all*. Now, again people seem to hate him but have you seen him in concert? (I have) This man puts in WORK! He can sing, dance and is such a hard worker. Did I mention he has hits?

Moving right along, JC was another standout talent in that group, such a well-rounded performer. Now I know the rest of the guys weren’t as popular but they played their position well and helped out the harmonies.

All in all I loved me some N’Sync.


SOTD Theme Week

This weeks SOTD’s will be a dedication to a genre of music that was so huge yet so ridiculed all at the same time. Can you guess it? 1 guess…. Go! Let’s see if you were right, the answer is *drumroll please* …………………..


If you’ve ever had the pleasure of hearing my iPod, you’ll know it’s very eclectic. I listen to a wide range of music and I’m not ashamed to say it. What I find is that some folks (typically males) like to tease me for having Boy bands on my iPod. Ummm hello? Who is this? You know what’s funny, males can hate on boy bands because all of the females loved them and what not but you know what you can’t deny? Their TALENT! The interesting point is that Boy Bands of the late 90’s had better vocals than most of the singers out today. I dare one of you to dispute me.

To start of the week:

The Backstreet Boys!

Brian, AJ, Kevin, Nick and Howie had the harmonies on deck. The Backstreet Boys ran a lot of the 90’s and it was deserved! They had TUNES! Their harmonies were on point and they could dance.

You can’t deny them, just watch and sing along because I know you know the words.

Weight Relations

Not sure why I’ve been putting this post off for so long but I was just reminded as to why I wanted to get it off of my chest.

How come people who are larger in size can say any damn thing they want to say to someone that’s of a smaller size and it’s a-okay? As I’ve mentioned before my weight fluctuates typically between a 7-9 depending. If I’m really stressed out at the time that’s when I get grossly skinny (in my books and others it seems). Why is it okay for people to tell me that I look like a bobblehead and anorexic at that size but I can’t tell someone that’s overweight that they look like Homer Simpson?

Does anyone see the fairness there?

I have a pretty good metabolism not to mention I’ve always played sports so for the most part I’m comfortable with my size. However sometimes people who are heavier than I, try to make me feel bad for this. What’s your beef here? Get to those jumping  jacks son!  You try to make me feel bad for being smaller than you but you don’t really do anything to change your current situation, is that somehow my fault? Nope. Take that misplaced frustration and put it into the gym. I’m not even trying to be funny here, I’m just trying to make a point. I’m aware some of it is jokes and I laugh if it’s funny and not meant maliciously but some people are being bitter Betty’s. Trying to take slight jabs at you.  As an overweight person, you have your hangups about your body but someone who is considered ‘skinny’ may not necessarily want to be skinny. Personally I know a lot of skinny people who have been trying to gain weight for years and their metabolism just won’t allow it. Sound familiar to some of you?

The fact of the matter is that weight is a touchy subject. A lot of us will never be our “perfect” size and you know why? There is no such thing as the perfect weight! As long as you’re eating healthy, working out and trying to help your situation that’s all you can do. People need to feel comfortable in their own skin and stop being so concerned with what everyone thinks they should look like.  There are folks that think I look better when I’m thicker and some when I’m slimmer. So who do I try to please? Simple… ME! If you’re confident in your own skin doesn’t matter what your size people will gravitate towards you. Don’t believe me? Try it for yourself and see.

SOTD: Praise You

This video was THE TRUTH.

You must remember this song, the video was released in 1999. When I first saw it, I remember thinking “What the heck is this?!” because the video was just that weird and random. Then I started to see it so often that I knew some of the routine off by heart. This video is hilarious, if you ever need a laugh just watch it.

Praise You- Fatboy Slim

O’Sound does it again.

I feel like I’m very repetitive when it comes to speaking about this man, but I don’t give a damn. The talent encompassed within Owen “O’Sound” Lee is limitless. Until you all start listening, I mean really hearing what I’m saying I will continue to shout it from the mountaintops- Owen is the truth.

If you ever saw his thought process in the studio, or really see him do his thing live, then you will get the full extent of what I speak of.

Thanks for the late Valentines Gift as you put it sir 😉

You did what with Scissors?

Over the weekend I assisted on set for The Discombobulated Tricks shoot entitled “Skizzers” (Scissors lol). When I tell you it was a-may-zing, I mean just that. Man oh man.

Charlene, Nicole and Meg- Y’all are stupidddd for this one. Dumb, silly, stupid.

Frannie, you did an excellent job my dear.

Ishmil, well done again sir.

Sanaz, you were a great help.

Shoutouts to Courtney from Polyshmag for stopping through 🙂

All the way turned up

*Jay-Z voice* What you wanna me to do? I’m sorrryyyy, but I’m back!

For those of you that have been rocking with me for awhile now, you should know how I get down. There’s only so long I can hold my tongue on certain things. This has been bugging me for awhile and I feel it needs to come off of my chest.


What does Friendship mean to you?


I hope you stopped and listed to yourself all the things it means. Me? 1 big thing I need from someone I consider a friend is honesty. Our generation consists of a bunch of spineless people that think telling someone how you feel means being rude. That’s so far from the truth, it’s not even funny. Granted if you go up to your friend and say “You dress horribly and you’re pretty ugly, I suggest makeup” yea, that’s kind of rude. However if you maybe tell your friend that the mini skirts she wears doesn’t compliment her body as well as say an A-line skirt, then you’re doing your friendly duties.

Trust and honesty is so vital to a relationship, without it nothing flourishes. Why is it that people don’t understand that concept as of yet? I mean, it’s so simple. If one of your “friends” does something that bothers you or has hurt you, why don’t you just bring it up to them? Pretending that everything is okay is fake and cowardly. What’s even more fake than pretending is going out of your way to ignore someone.  Welcome to Grade 5 folks, complete with the JTT crush (ladies y’all remember JTT lol). Don’t throw shade on some subliminal mess but you don’t have the guts to ever say it to someones face. That makes no kind of sense! Do you want attention? Do you want love? If so, go hug a tree or something because this isn’t the place. If you heard half a story from someone else about your “friend” and take it on as CNN fact when really the person is as credible as MediaTakeOut, your wack <– Just thought I’d let you know, since I’m sure 1 of your friends hasn’t told you yet.

*Double kisses*