Pull it up!

I wrote this last year and I feel it needs to get re-read by people.


I hope everyone is enjoying their Saturday to the fullest, it’s magnificent outside.  Yup, I sure did say “magnificent”. 

My topic of today stems from a trend that really irks me. Why is it that so many people can’t just admit when they are mad at or have problem with someone? For instance there is this female that I know that has been running her gums about me for over a year now. I know it, she knows it. So you would think if you were “friends” with someone and you are mad at them for whatever reason you would approach them about it right? Apparently WRONG! She calls me once every couple months, I do not reciprocate. For what purpose? I know you talk about me, yet you smile in my face like everything is picture perfect? No way Jose. This is just one example of many. People can call me a b*tch but I don’t feel like just because you’ve known someone for a couple years you are obligated to be friends with them. For what?! I’m 23 years old, I’m not in highschool anymore. If the friendship is unhealthy and you’ve proven to be plastic rather than rock solid…. buh bye It’s really that simple.

If you have a problem with someone there is no harm in addressing it. If you are  supposed to be “friends”, that is the scope of a friendship. You should be able to voice your problem/concern, solve it (or not) and keep it moving. If you cannot do that, then maybe you’re not meant to be friends in the first place. Straight up, end of discussion.

Shoutouts to those that can keep it real. I appreciate you, I really do.

Here is the original post.

SOTD: Summer Loving

This song is PERFECT for my Song of the Day, as it ties in with my previous post.

Guy meets girl and enjoys the brief time spent with her just chilling and having sex.

Girl thinks she’s in a relationship and she’s found a good man.


Problems arising!

This is why people need to be honest and upfront about what they want from people. Shoutout to this video, as it comes from one of my favorite movies GREASE. This movie will never get old to me, EVER! My friends clown me because I have these songs on my iPod, but I don’t give a damn lol.

Summer Lovin’ – John Travolta and Olivia Newton-John

The Summer Spell

In light of my favorite season beginning in the next coming weeks, there comes some complications that comes with it. The sun is so delightful and beautiful, however I think it messes with peoples brains in ways that scientists and doctors alike haven’t been able to cure yet. There are 2 things I would love to address that I think are major issues with my lover Summer.

1. The “I’m too cute and can wear anything” Syndrome.

This aforementioned syndrome mainly affects females during the summer season. It’s as if they have trick mirrors in their houses telling them “You look beautiful, it doesn’t matter if you don’t fit it into it. You’re hot anyway!”  *blank stare*. Ladies, we have to stick together so I’m just going to say this to help along our species. If you have 2nd thoughts about wearing something because you squeezed your size 12 ass into a size 6… do us all a favor and don’t wear it. The sun has a special way of tricking people into wearing anything. If you thought no one cares, trust me, they do! Do not pass GO, do not collect $200. Wear your size, keep those toes polished and keep those legs hydrated. Double up if you have to with Vaseline and lotion.

2. “To Be Single, or Not to be Single


This one is a big one.

You’ve been talking to a guy pre-season and it’s suddenly leading into summer and he starts to get weird. By weird, it can mean many things such as displaying symptoms like: Moodiness, Distantness, Douchebag-ness, etc. You know what that is right? He’s realizing the summer skirts are starting to come out and wants to keep his options open. The thing is, he might genuinly like you but summer makes you want to play the field and chase all the cuties that you see. We all know everyone comes out of hibernation at that time, and wants to show face. Everyone is suddenly in HEAT (literally). My theory is the heat begins to fry a couple brains, without folks even noticing it. One second he’s Hot and the next second he’s cold, word to Katy Perry. Believe me it’s frustrating and all, but you know what? Keep it moving! If you were able to grab one, you can most definitely grab another. He’ll realize once summer cools down that he wants to be boo’d up and when you’re suddenly unavailable because you’re washing your hair every night, he’ll get the picture 😉  

Too little, too late.

1 Small Step

“Been gone for awhile now I’m back with the jumpoff”. Shoutouts to the Lil Kim that still looked like a Barbie but at that time, not a deformed one.

Hello my loves.

How was everyone’s weekend? For those of you that don’t live in Canada, we had a Long Weekend with some sexy ass weather. My kind of time. I spent the weekend with majority of the people in my life right now and per usual it was goodtimes.

Hot weather makes me so happy, I don’t even think people understand me when I say this. There is nothing like picking up randomly, throwing on some cutoff shorts and hitting the road. Summer brings out a lot of good things to me.

Before I go completely off topic, I have some good news that I need to share. For those of you wondering what exactly it is I do, I thought I’d address that. What does Datchickneeks do? The simple answer is a little bit of everything. I’ve always had many interests growing up, and have never fully honed in on ONE thing in particular. That was always a problem with parental unit types, because I wouldn’t focus my energy into one group. At this point in time, I still  don’t think I need to do that. If I can excel in one more than one category, why not do so?  Growing up, I’ve always been into being my own unique self fashion wise. For those of you that went to highschool with me, you cannot forget my customized EVERYTHING. If it came to my head, I’d do it. To me, there was never anything wrong in trying. Well looks like that has aspect of my personality has finally paid off.  Opportunities arise in the simplest of ways and there is no way I couldn’t pass up on it.

(What is she talking about?!)

Lately I’ve been getting back into creating my own jewelry pieces and customized outfits and been wearing them around the town. Thankfully someone was paying attention because there is a store in Toronto called Haus Clothing, that has offered to sell some of my stuff along with The Discombobulated Tricks! !  🙂 🙂

It may not seem like much to you, but it’s a big deal to us. This is just the BEGINNING of a beautiful thing. We’re a team that works well with each other and all bring something a little different to the table.  The support that Rachel and William have shown us at Haus is amazing and very much appreciated.

I’ll be uploading pictures so that you all can see. If you want to check it out in person, slide on down to Haus Clothing. It’s located at 1265 Bloor St W (Bloor/Lansdowne).


On this blog I’ve featured a lot of Toronto’s musical talent, but what about film?

Another fresh, young talent on the rise comes from Michelle Berry. Talk about phenomenal woman, this film was written AND directed by her. Amazing, right?

Please take in the preview for her film titled “Leah”.

Don’t forget the name Michelle Berry folks.

Soooo Amazing!

Good Morning Lovelies,

Do you all know how much I love R&B singers? Especially a man who sings?


For those of you not acquainted with this man, here is your introduction. His name? Show Stephens, and he’s one of Toronto’s many talented R&B singers on the come up. This song is really good and the video is excellent as well. As I keep saying, Toronto we have to support our own GOOD talent! We have so much to offer, let’s support before everyone else does.

So Amazing- Show Stephens.

He got a big…

It’s too big, it’s too wide
It’s too strong, it won’t fit
It’s too much, it’s too tough

He got a big ego, such a huge ego
I love his big ego, it’s too much!



Have you guys noticed that nowadays a lot of people have their own ego trailing along behind them? People know your name a little so all of a sudden you’re entitled to act however you feel like it? You must be high off glue. Everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses, just because you’re good at something (well in your mind) does not mean everyone should kiss your ass.



What happened to people being humble? Does that word even exist in peoples vocabularies? When you’re not humble God has a special way of reminding you, do not get caught slipping! Absolutely hate this crap. The world does not revolve around you and you alone, again get over yourself. It becomes quite old hearing someone consistently brag about how they can do this and they can do that and they’re perfect in all facets of life. Last time I checked you weren’t born in a manger and your mother isn’t a Virgin. Sit down somewhere.



POTD: Zion

This song is fitting for the day.

What a beautiful song, the words are so honest and real. Lauryn Hill wrote this song to her son Zion, it expresses how those around her didn’t want her to have him and how she opted to accept her blessing from God. I remember watching this performance on tv when it originally aired.

How many times must I say on this blog alone, Lauryn can you come back to me?

Lauryn Hill- To Zion.

To my Superhero

Every year a new Superhero movie comes out and we rush to the theatres to catch it. Whether it be Batman, Superman, Spiderman and of course Iron Man. Those movies are cool and all, but what about our everyday heroes? Everyone looks up to someone and in most cases it’s our mothers. My mom is a superhero, I’m convinced.

As I write this, I’m tearing up and I can’t seem to control it. My mother birthed 5 children and has practically raised us on her own. No, her husbands never left but she has been widowed, twice. That alone would practically kill me once, but twice? She’s a brave woman. We haven’t always seen eye to eye but really who has? The bottom line is I love my mother more than I can put into words. The things she’s sacrificed for her children and those around her is unbelievable.  Even though she says that I’m one of the kids that gave her the most trouble (I have no IDEA what she means) I still would give her the world. When I do have the world at my disposal, she will definitely be the first to reap the benefits of it.

Where I got my Fashion Sense from!


That's her in the middle.

I was either 13/14 (Shut up lol)

I can go on and on but I’ll keep it short and say, “when I grow up” if I amount to be half the woman that she is, I would be okay with that.

To all the other good mothers ,stepmother’s, god-mothers, adoptive mothers, Legal Guardians, Single Fathers, I must send out a special Happy Mothers Day to you as well. If it wasn’t for people like yourself, the world would cease to exist. You’re very much appreciated, even if you don’t hear it everyday you are.

With Love,


SOTD: Crush on You


You really do not understand, I’ve been listening to this song HEAVY for the last couple weeks. Sometimes your brain makes you listen to certain songs for certain reasons, if you’re familiar with this song- LMAO!

Am I the only one that misses this Lil Kim? As raunchy and raw as she wanted to be and was straight fire!  Kim, even though you look like Lo Chi Kim now instead of the beautiful brownskin woman that you were before it’s alright, just make good music please!