The Pursuit of ‘Happy’ness

Hello Lovers (and the rest of y’all)

Before you try to clock my tea right now, yes I know I’ve written about happiness before but I’m going to do it again if that’s okay. You like that eh? How I asked you like if I would have stopped if someone said no lol.

The Pursuit of Happiness.

Your pursuit on the road to happiness will definitely not be the same as mine or anyone elses. With that being said, why do we invest so much in “checking” with others if it’s okay to be happy within ourselves? Everything we do seems as though we have to okay it with everyone in our lives. The thought of running it by a friend to run it on the “Crazy” or “Sane” scale is cool, however every decision you make does not to be okayed by everyone in your circle. Too often do I see people who are unhappy in their relationship, career, life in general and are afraid to fix it because they care about what others will say. Here is the thing, people will ALWAYS talk and have something to say about whatever it is you do that’s just life. There is a reason why things like TMZ, ET, Inside edition, Access Hollywood, etc etc etc exist. Gossip magazines make money from publishing pictures of Britney Spears eating spaghetti on a damn patio for goodness sakes. Typically one of the tougher decisions that you make in your life, most people will try to persuade you not to do it just because it’s such a big choice. Last time I checked, they’re not living it. If you’re cool on mediocrity that’s on you. There is no way that someone could tell me to stay in a relationship that I’ve been in long-term just because folks will have some mess to say. Girl, bye! If someone had told me to stay with my ex of 3 years that cheated just because I’d laugh at them and call them an idiot. Wait, not “if” that did happen. To make a tough decision in the face of adversity shows a lot about your character. The thought of being unhappy everyday in a loveless relationship just doesn’t make any kind of sense to me. That math was clearly done by Fantasia (shade). Granted no one wants to hurt someone on purpose (well some wretched people do) but for the most part you faking a relationship is just hurting all parties involved. Sometimes no matter how much superglue you put it still falls apart the second you walk out of your house. You’re putting on a song and a dance for people who deep down don’t care about you. The things I hear from some of you is downright foolishness. Acting like we haven’t been freed yet, we’s free people… go.get.yours! Before someone else does…

He got a big…

It’s too big, it’s too wide
It’s too strong, it won’t fit
It’s too much, it’s too tough

He got a big ego, such a huge ego
I love his big ego, it’s too much!



Have you guys noticed that nowadays a lot of people have their own ego trailing along behind them? People know your name a little so all of a sudden you’re entitled to act however you feel like it? You must be high off glue. Everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses, just because you’re good at something (well in your mind) does not mean everyone should kiss your ass.



What happened to people being humble? Does that word even exist in peoples vocabularies? When you’re not humble God has a special way of reminding you, do not get caught slipping! Absolutely hate this crap. The world does not revolve around you and you alone, again get over yourself. It becomes quite old hearing someone consistently brag about how they can do this and they can do that and they’re perfect in all facets of life. Last time I checked you weren’t born in a manger and your mother isn’t a Virgin. Sit down somewhere.




This is a Public Service Announcement:

If you’re not ready to call someone your girlfriend and really be faithful. Don’t bother.

I’ll re-iterate.

If you have a “girlfriend” and you’re still flirting with anything that has a vagina, DO NOT BOTHER to get into a relationship.

What is the point of getting into a relationship, just to say you’re in one? (A popular topic on this blog). If you have a girlfriend, I don’t think it’s appropriate for you to tell me over and over how sexy you find me and what we can do together. Don’t try to tell me you’re “just joking” either. Spare me.

There are certain things that are within boundaries of healthy flirting. Do not get me wrong, I’m not saying that just because you’re in a relationship you shouldn’t flirt… negative! However if you are in a relationship, telling someone to come over or insinuating how good they would “taste” is crossing major lines. General rule of thumb, if you would go out of your way to keep that from your partner : You probably have no business doing it.

You guys are serious?

Hello Folks,

As you can see from my previous post, Drakes “Over” video dropped today. As I’ve already stated it’s fire. Of course not everyone will feel the same way but sometimes I have to wonder if people really think when watching media content or just tune out after awhile. There are a lot of people saying they do not like it for reasons such as:

  • It makes no sense
  • It has nothing to do with the video
  • It’s boring


Wow, this is what we’ve come to huh? If a video isn’t completely literal or doesn’t have cars, boobs and extravagant clothing it’s wack? Why did people go crazy for Kanye Wests “Can’t Tell me Nothing”? That video had “nothing to do with the song” and was just him performing in the desert with lights. (For the record, don’t try and crucify me, as I thought that video was well done as well). If something is not literal “Can you see me, can you see me, get your visine on” *flash to Drake holding Visine in his hand*, People just can’t feel it huh? Or “bout to set it off in this b*tch, Jada Pinkett  *cut to scene of Jada in Set it Off Movie*. Have we really become that basic? The concept made perfect sense to me, I’m so glad he came back strong (since I was NOT a fan of “Best I Ever Had”). Granted sometimes vidoes completely miss the mark when they’re not literal and we’re all left wondering what really occurred, however this video was not a ‘hard’ concept. This generation needs to realize that thinking and being outside the box does not need to always be spaceships and such a la Andre 3000 but could be something as simple as this video or Erykah Badus “Window Seat”.

As I always say you can’t please everyone, it’s physically impossible. There will always be people that don’t believe and that’s okay because that’s just apart of life. However if we took more time to think for ourselves, maybe we’d be better off as a generation.
Just saying…


Good morning,

I wasn’t even going to address this, but now I feel compelled. Yesterday, over Twitter a certain Toronto rapper decided to publicly air out his grievances towards Drake. The general public only knows 1 side to the story right now, and that is the rapper calling Drake a snitch and that he hates him. To tell you the truth, I’m not even going to give this claim much thought because we don’t know the full story. What I do have a problem with is the word “snitching”. The whole of Toronto is talking about this situation and some are taking sides saying that “snitching isn’t cool”. Do you remember couple years ago when people were actually airbrushing t-shirts with “Stop Snitching”. The ignorance of that is pretty disgusting to me.

*rolls up sleeves*

What exactly is snitching and what classifies a snitch? I wish this BET generation would just go away and read a book (one that isn’t strictly Eric Jerome Dickey or Sister Souljah). Is there ever going to be a day where we get past this stupid ignorant mentality? I don’t give a DAMN what any of you say, if a crime happened to one of your family members and they told the police you wouldn’t call them a snitch. You know what helps people not get caught? DON’T DO A CRIME. Brilliant and groundbreaking, huh? This ‘hood’ thuglife for life mentality needs to seize. The more unfortunate part about all of that is that majority of those that preach it, do not even live it. Up out my face with that nonsense. If these people spent more time perfecting something positive or even perfecting their craft, there would be less time for the foolishness I’m hearing about. Everyone wants to be hood and get rich, why not do it in a respectable manner? You want to live the life of rappers you see on tv? Well guess what, half of the stuff they’re rapping about they don’t even do! Again, up out my face. Guns are killing my people and if you don’t care enough and want to keep your “cool” outlook that’s on you… just don’t let me hear you complaining the next time a 4 year old gets shot on the bus, or one of the friends you grew up with was an innocent bystander just waiting for her boyfriend to meet her & gets shot and sadly killed. This stuff gets me heated, so I think I’m just going to end this right here, some of you may not agree with me but as you know I don’t care- this stuff must stop! I’ve been affected by this on a personal level and if we keep this mentality up, crimes will just get increasingly worse and people will continuously get away with it. Is that the kind of world you want to raise your kids in?

Didn’t think so

When a Womans Fed Up

When is enough really enough?

How many times can you put yourself and your spirit in harm’s way for the sake of ‘love’. I put love in quotations because sometimes it’s not even real love. Sometimes it’s the idea of it, or changed love.

Folks, if someone keeps showing you time and time again through actions and words that they don’t care about you. Please listen. Why allow them to damage your heart even more than it already is. They’ve proven to you time and time again that they don’t cherish it, so in my books that means they’re not worthy. At one point in time, maybe the love was mutual and shared. Now it isn’t and deep down in your heart, you know this. Yes, it hurts and yes you love that person but is it really worth it? Years of abuse to your heart is not doing you any favors. It’s just making it worse for your mind and soul. You wouldn’t trust a 2-year-old with your iPod because you’re afraid they’ll break it, so why would you trust someone unworthy with something as sacred as your heart? Think about it.

(To my friend that’s going through this right now, yes this was inspired by you. Keep your head held high, you don’t deserve to be treated like you’re insignificant. You’re worth way more than that <3)

Ladies, what?

Good Morning,

Humans are such interesting mammals. It’s amazing all the funny, intelligent and stupid things that we can manage to do. With this post I’m hoping someone can help me figure out a couple things.

Why is it that when females have a boyfriend (or just started talking to a guy) and they know there is a girl that he currently likes or just recently liked is still in the picture they INSIST that he cut the girl off? Logically, if I know that there’s this guy that I like and I have an inclination that he’s still interested in another girl, I’m not even pursuing it. Why? Because I’ll drive myself crazy because I don’t trust him. Chances are if you force a guy to cut out a female that’s heavily in his life, he’s going to:

A) Do it behind your back.

B) Abide for a bit, then do it behind your back.

 C) The female will sniff out your insecurity and aid him in doing it behind your back.

Think about it ladies, there is a reason that she’s in his life. It may not be good reasons, but there is a reason and if you think you have the upper hand by laying down the law to him- you’re going to get played in the end. Trusttttt meeee. I’ve seen it happen one too many times. So just because you don’t SEE it happening, it probably is… through email, bbm, Facebook, Twitter and the best IN PERSON. Look at how many avenues that is right there. If you don’t trust him, don’t even bother to be with him. You’re setting yourself up for failure and heartbreak.



For all my people who have been rocking with me for months now, you all know I really have no patience for liars. Lying is a dirty disease and I really wish somehow it could be abolished. What’s worse than someone lying to you? Lying ABOUT you!

Why would anyone go and lie about someone else on something that didn’t concern them in the first place? You’re going and lying to a guy to what… impress him? Get cute, maybe that will impress him more. The fact that you’re so desperate to get a man that’s already spoken for by many is trifling and very basic of you. However what can I expect from someone of your nature? Wild animals only know how to be that, wild.

Fallback off my name, or I will have to expose you.

Don’t say I didn’t warn you 🙂

Time is of the Essence

They say that time is precious, but how precious is it really?

24 hours in each day and how much of that do we spend wisely?

The consensus that I get is that most of you lovely readers are over the age of 20, which means you’re all thriving adults with many things to think about in an average day. School, Work, Paying bills, Hobbies, etc etc. Our days fill up so quickly and you constantly hear the phrase “I’m so busy” or “I have no time”.

How much of that is actually true though? I mean lets just keep it 100 (as we always do) we make time for those that we want to make time for. That’s just the sad and absolute truth. The quicker we realize that, the better off we will be in life. Granted, 2 people with busy schedules it may be harder to get them together in the same spot but it’s possible. Don’t try to tell me anything different. Playing phone tag may happen but if the 2 parties are really serious and want to see each other, by golly it’ll happen. The amount of times I hear people say they’re so busy and I really have to wonder how true that is sometimes. On Twitter, people that tweet how busy they are all the time must not realize how foolish it sounds. If you’re oh so busy, you wouldn’t have time to tweet “I’m sooooo busy” every 5 minutes. Let’s just keep it real b*tch!

Weight Relations

Not sure why I’ve been putting this post off for so long but I was just reminded as to why I wanted to get it off of my chest.

How come people who are larger in size can say any damn thing they want to say to someone that’s of a smaller size and it’s a-okay? As I’ve mentioned before my weight fluctuates typically between a 7-9 depending. If I’m really stressed out at the time that’s when I get grossly skinny (in my books and others it seems). Why is it okay for people to tell me that I look like a bobblehead and anorexic at that size but I can’t tell someone that’s overweight that they look like Homer Simpson?

Does anyone see the fairness there?

I have a pretty good metabolism not to mention I’ve always played sports so for the most part I’m comfortable with my size. However sometimes people who are heavier than I, try to make me feel bad for this. What’s your beef here? Get to those jumping  jacks son!  You try to make me feel bad for being smaller than you but you don’t really do anything to change your current situation, is that somehow my fault? Nope. Take that misplaced frustration and put it into the gym. I’m not even trying to be funny here, I’m just trying to make a point. I’m aware some of it is jokes and I laugh if it’s funny and not meant maliciously but some people are being bitter Betty’s. Trying to take slight jabs at you.  As an overweight person, you have your hangups about your body but someone who is considered ‘skinny’ may not necessarily want to be skinny. Personally I know a lot of skinny people who have been trying to gain weight for years and their metabolism just won’t allow it. Sound familiar to some of you?

The fact of the matter is that weight is a touchy subject. A lot of us will never be our “perfect” size and you know why? There is no such thing as the perfect weight! As long as you’re eating healthy, working out and trying to help your situation that’s all you can do. People need to feel comfortable in their own skin and stop being so concerned with what everyone thinks they should look like.  There are folks that think I look better when I’m thicker and some when I’m slimmer. So who do I try to please? Simple… ME! If you’re confident in your own skin doesn’t matter what your size people will gravitate towards you. Don’t believe me? Try it for yourself and see.