SOTD: Upgrade Ya

Tying into my previous post, there is no way this couldn’t have been song of the day.

This was the FIRST song I fell in love with off of this album B’Day. I remember around the time the video dropped, everyone had their bullshit rumors swirling around that they broke up. When she dropped this video, at the point where Jay-Z starts to rap everyone was like “see see, he’s not even in it…” then they were shamed one scene after. The strength of a relationship is never truly known by the outside world looking in it. Unless you see things firsthand everyday, everything else is just speculation.

Who’s Mad?

Upgrade Ya- Beyoncé feat. Jay-Z

Hiiiii baby 🙂


Throughout the time that I’ve had this blog, I’ve talked about many aspects of Love. The highs and lows and ins and outs of it. Looking back (and reading back) I’ve had my share of L’s with Love. When you’re going through it, it seems like it’s the worst thing that could have happened, after awhile you realize it was just to make way for something better. People always asked me why I held out so long and stayed single, I always answered with “getting a boyfriend isn’t hard” and I still stick by my answer. Getting a GOOD one is hard and getting a hard one is quite good (jokes… well not really).

*prays my family isn’t reading this…*

I digress.

I always told myself I was doing it for a reason, I just knew it. Throughout the way, I know people thought the real reasons why I was single were:

 a) I had some kind of issue and Men couldn’t put up with me

 b) I’m picky 

 c) I’m a total Looney Toon.

That’s fine though, people will always have their own opinion but I knew my worth. Losers in life have a special way of making you feel like you’re the problem when really they are. The fact that I now know for sure I wasn’t waiting in vain all this time has me smirking heavily. God has a funny way of placing people in your life at the correct moments. Needless to say my moment came and I was ready, word to Alicia Keys.

It’s a blessing to be matched with your equal, my efforts and everything I do is reciprocated. THAT is a word that has been missing. ReciprocityIt’s one thing to do nice things for someone and have certain feelings for them, but once it’s given back to you? There’s no better feeling.

My friends and family are happy for me, and that makes me feel good. The pouring in of love from some of you has been overwhelming. Thank You. 

To the fake “friends”/acquaintances/Stalkers from a distance  that wish that this doesn’t last, cause you’re as bitter those other members of Destinys Child. You push us to stay stronger. Like how I did that huh? Put “us” to remind you that not only are you bitter, but you’re probably lonely too? *winks*

 To the males that have hit me up with their “Sorry for 2010” a la Ruben Studdard, you’re late as usual.  The fact that you thought I would be around forever is comical at best. Scratch my name off of your never-ending roster, cause I’m a starting player already.

Right now my heart is full and it’s interesting that I never had a “checklist” before but now I’ve realized that he has every.last.check on it.

Funny how that works huh?



It’s very seldom that you’re blessed to find your equal, still play my part and let you take the lead role, believe me–   BEY!

Thinking of You…


When I saw this above picture I’m pretty sure I made a noise and yelled “yesssss”.  I’ve had this picture for quite sometime and just haven’t gotten the time to blog it, but it’s your lucky day folks cause here it is.

How many times have you seen this? How many songs have you heard about this? I swear to you, I feel like I’m the only person sometimes that waits until my mind is mentally over the last one before I start with the new one. Who is this situation really fair to? It’s not fair to Miss.Jam, look at how happy she is, big ass grin just strolling down the street. However look at Mr. Bread, he looks scared as hell, with the biggest blank face ever. The smirk that Miss. Peanut Butter is giving  is damn near priceless. So again, who really wins in this situation? To me, it’s nobody. Miss. Jam is happy because she has the man but in reality she really doesn’t. What she’s actually doing is wasting valuable time. Mr. Bread is wasting his own time, because really if Jam isn’t doing it why bother? Your mind and your heart are interconnected and if they are both plugged into someone elses mainboard, your system shall surely crash. You thinking you can do a quick hack on it, is just that a quick and easy fix for a problem that needs more attention. Judging by this pic we don’t really know how Miss. Peanut Butter got into this triangle but either she’s the one who broke his heart or he broke hers. Either way, lose mothereffin lose. This stuff happens so often it’s unbelievable, I mean how can you possibly give something a chance to work if you know you’re stuck on another person? It won’t work. So why not cut your losses and keep it moving? Be by yourself until you can truly figure out what you want and then go for it.

Things that make me ponder…

1 Year Later.


We all remember what we were doing when Pandemonium broke out one year ago today. I was at home when I began to see bbm status updates “Pray for Michael Jackson”. My heart immediately started racing and thoughts of “what happened” began running through my head. That night was a bunch of confusion mixed with scare and prayer.  When the news finally were confirmed that the King of Pop aka Michael Gary Jackson had passed away, I was devastated. As I stated last year when I made my posts about him, you never expected him to be ‘Invincible’ however you expected him to be his ‘Bad’ self until at least his 80’s. The measure of a man should not be realized only in death but in life as well. Michael Jackson was and always will be the greatest of all TIME. Point blank period.

Before I go on and on, I’m going to finish off with a poem. This was written by my longtime friend Maria about Michael Jackson and she was gracious enough to send it to me to post on my blog. Thanks Maria!

Forever Missed, Never Forgotten

(When a tear drop falls in your name,

it is because you are missed)


The innocence of your beauty,

purifies the world’s heart.

Your rays of light reflect in our mirrors,

like a shining star.

Your existence overshadows

all negativity on earth,

like an illuminating light

that hovers over the moon

during a solar Eclipse.

Where there is darkness and loneliness,

we are cured with your endless love.

No shape, color or size,

can escape your overwhelming kindness.

The earth’s blue waters and green lands

shine brighter within the universe

from having your magical feet

and selfless hands touch down on them.

Your time spent on our planet

was too short for us to cope with,

but an infinity for what lives on in your name.

Life is short, but yours was a million lifetimes

in half a century.

Your being was larger than life,

louder than words,

faster than light,

and forever remembered.

This world is a better place

because you lived.

You are forever missed

and never forgotten.


♥ <R.I.P Michael Jackson> ♥


-Maria Iaccheo

Birthday Love: CPD

She won’t see this yet but…


I hope you’re having the time of your life right now in Freshyland. You deserve it, you work hard as hell. To those reading it, this woman does it ALL! She works a zillion jobs, can create something out of nothing, has a big heart, can make you laugh and bad you up all in one conversation LOL. This woman definitely has an ‘S’ tatted on her chest.

So thankful to have you in my corner.

Love you dearlyyyyyy, you slim waist curly haired sensation.

Not sure who took this pic lol

Mego, AsiaFiasco and Pradatrick

To my Superhero

Every year a new Superhero movie comes out and we rush to the theatres to catch it. Whether it be Batman, Superman, Spiderman and of course Iron Man. Those movies are cool and all, but what about our everyday heroes? Everyone looks up to someone and in most cases it’s our mothers. My mom is a superhero, I’m convinced.

As I write this, I’m tearing up and I can’t seem to control it. My mother birthed 5 children and has practically raised us on her own. No, her husbands never left but she has been widowed, twice. That alone would practically kill me once, but twice? She’s a brave woman. We haven’t always seen eye to eye but really who has? The bottom line is I love my mother more than I can put into words. The things she’s sacrificed for her children and those around her is unbelievable.  Even though she says that I’m one of the kids that gave her the most trouble (I have no IDEA what she means) I still would give her the world. When I do have the world at my disposal, she will definitely be the first to reap the benefits of it.

Where I got my Fashion Sense from!


That's her in the middle.

I was either 13/14 (Shut up lol)

I can go on and on but I’ll keep it short and say, “when I grow up” if I amount to be half the woman that she is, I would be okay with that.

To all the other good mothers ,stepmother’s, god-mothers, adoptive mothers, Legal Guardians, Single Fathers, I must send out a special Happy Mothers Day to you as well. If it wasn’t for people like yourself, the world would cease to exist. You’re very much appreciated, even if you don’t hear it everyday you are.

With Love,


When a Womans Fed Up

When is enough really enough?

How many times can you put yourself and your spirit in harm’s way for the sake of ‘love’. I put love in quotations because sometimes it’s not even real love. Sometimes it’s the idea of it, or changed love.

Folks, if someone keeps showing you time and time again through actions and words that they don’t care about you. Please listen. Why allow them to damage your heart even more than it already is. They’ve proven to you time and time again that they don’t cherish it, so in my books that means they’re not worthy. At one point in time, maybe the love was mutual and shared. Now it isn’t and deep down in your heart, you know this. Yes, it hurts and yes you love that person but is it really worth it? Years of abuse to your heart is not doing you any favors. It’s just making it worse for your mind and soul. You wouldn’t trust a 2-year-old with your iPod because you’re afraid they’ll break it, so why would you trust someone unworthy with something as sacred as your heart? Think about it.

(To my friend that’s going through this right now, yes this was inspired by you. Keep your head held high, you don’t deserve to be treated like you’re insignificant. You’re worth way more than that <3)

Sigh x 16

I wasn’t going to touch this subject but something forced me to.

There are days that have significance due to years past and no matter how hard you try to blur it to the back of your mind, it sits right there engrained in your memory.

16 years ago my father died.

The day plays out like a movie in my head no matter how much I try to forget the feeling. Do not get me twisted for a second, I’m not saying I’m trying to forget my father by any means- NEVER that. It’s just the feeling does not go away, personally I don’t think it ever will. I’m not going to go into great detail or anything, I wasn’t even going to write anything about it today, then something so simple happened. As soon as I got home and turned on the tv, Janet Jackson’s “Together Again” was on. This song was always pretty special to me so I felt it was a little too coincidental.

That’s all really, short and concise. Don’t forget to cherish your loved ones, I’ll continue telling you all that until I meet my father ❤

This song felt like it was written for me…

Real Major

Hair, Makeup, Styling,  Photography, Creative Directing. You want it, we got it!

Oh, and who else can whine to “Raggamuffin’ and do the whole Single Ladies dance while doing all of the above.

Didn’t think so.

Datchickneeks + The Discombobulated Tricks = Love and Creativity

Myself, Nicole, Megz

Neeks, PradaTrick, AsiaFiasco & CPD

About 4am in the morning screwfacing.

Will You Be Mine?

Will You Be Mine?

Love Me Forever?

Kiss Me

Sex me… okay maybe not that one lol. However those are all the things we’re bombarded with this time of year.

Valentines Day 


Some of you either smiled or went “ugghhh’. Personally I’m more on the ‘ugghhh’ side of it all. It’s not just because I’m a single female, because when I was in a relationship I felt the same way. If you love someone it shouldn’t take 1 day out of the year to show them. Typically we let others dictate how we celebrate our relationships. The mass media says that red/pink and hearts are what we need to say I love you. A Red/pink “Valentines Edition” iPod is an excellent way to say I love you. *insert eye roll*. How come grocery stores aren’t having Valentines day sales so we can cook something for the one that we love? Why must it be something so cliche all the time? Candy, Chocolate, Teddy bears… that says “I love you”?


Do something nice for people that you love on the day to day and I’m sure they’ll appreciate it. For those that only take the time to show they care on 1 day of the year, wait sorry 2 days (I forgot birthdays) you have to see something wrong in that. For those of you that will be celebrating with your partner, try to get creative.  The standard stuff becomes so played out all the time. You don’t have to go all out and get a room in Niagara Falls to show how you really care, just thoughtful “I think about you more than you know” type of stuff. If you have a crush on someone, doing something sweet for them doesn’t hurt either. My advice, don’t get corny and go overboard. Sending 2 dozen roses with balloons and teddy bears doesn’t show love, it shows that an employee knew how to hustle you really good lol.


Love shouldn’t be so contrived and forced. Do not feel forced to do something sweet for your significant other because that’s what people are telling you should do. Everything is that much sweeter when it comes from the heart.